Counting down to 11.11 (Single Sale on TaoBao), Black Friday and Holiday promotion is giving me immense stress. I can feel the pressure of expectation, pushing me to fish for my wallet and empty its content for no particular reason but for the sake of bargains. If you have seen me this past week, I am that weirdo who takes a deep breath and dashes off whenever a sales-person approaches.
Since there’s no escape from all these sales demanding our attention, the least we can do is to be intentional about what we buy. If you are planning to shop, try these tips:
Make a list based on what you need and stick to it
Discounts do make such a difference and I am not here to demonise it. If you are to take away one thing from this piece, this is it: if what you get is what you need, the thing you get will mean so much more to you.
Set an alarm to remind yourself to stop shopping
It doesn’t necessarily mean to limit your decision time, which might backfire in the form of impulse-buy. The alarm is there to break the state of frenzy and remind you to take a moment to calm down.
The power of visualising
Visualise where you would put the item you want to buy, then picture yourself using/wearing it. How many scenarios can you picture yourself using it? Is it for your own enjoyment or for others’ envy/compliment? These questions dig a little deeper and hopefully help us make sensible decisions.
Acknowledge its genius
… and leave it at that. Say it out loud, if it helps, ‘OMG, this is cute!’ and walk away. You don’t always have to own it.
Treating yourself is great, there’s no doubt about it. Although to feel good about yourself has nothing to do with ‘stuff’. Do things that help you value yourself, spend time with those who love and cherish you. Do things that make you happy. In brief: you do you.
If you are celebrating 11.11, single or not, make it about you, rather than what you buy. This is my challenge to you - If you are going to spend money, spend it on ONE thing that empowers you, instead of 10 things that drown you.